The mere fact you’ve gotten this deep into thinking about your wedding, that you’re on this blog reading about weddings and looking through directories and investigating vendors, venues, celebrants and the like is something I really want to give you a round of applause for.
Why? Because I’m a critical thinker and I really appreciate people thinking critically about everything in life
Critical thinking, research, and investigation are all hallmarks of an intelligent person, and getting married is a sure sign of intelligence because you’ve realised that life could be better with someone else, in particular, this boy or girl you’re about to marry.
So as you think about that relationship, your impending nuptials and your race into this thing called life with your favourite human, I want to encourage you to apply the same thought process to everything happening on your wedding day, and everyone you’re hiring and everything you’re purchasing.
Contrary to public thought, there isn’t one way to celebrate marriage. With the current population, there are about 2 billion ways to celebrate marriage – because a marriage isn’t a traditional cloak that you wear, nor is it some kind of old-fashioned dance that we dance.
Marriage is quite seriously and simply a union.
It’s a union between two people, entered into voluntarily and for life.
It’s two amazing and intelligent people making the decision and the commitment to share their most precious asset with the other, their time.
So when it comes to celebrating that union, anyone else’s wedding wouldn’t do. The starting time, the date or day of the week, the place or the stationery, it all just won’t do.
How the ceremony is performed and what kind of photos are taken, if any at all, it’s all a completely individual and unique experience because we’re not celebrating the idea of marriage. We’re not celebrating the traditions of weddings over the course of history.
We’re celebrating your marriage and that’s deserving of a one-in-six-billion party because you’ve got a one-in-six-billion marriage and that ceremony isn’t celebrating the dictionary definition of marriage or the church’s definition of marriage.
Your marriage ceremony is quite literally this magically awesome moment where you slip from unmarried to married, and that’s something worth celebrating because it all simply means that the best is yet to come.
Words and images by Jos Withers from Married by Josh