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Figure out your WHY before you book your WHATJan 02

Married by Josh

The mere fact you’ve gotten this deep into thinking about your wedding, that you’re on this blog reading about weddings and looking through directories and investigating vendors, venues, celebrants and the like is something I really want to give you a round of applause for.

Why? Because I’m a critical thinker and I really appreciate people thinking critically about everything in life

Critical thinking, research, and investigation are all hallmarks of an intelligent person, and getting married is a sure sign of intelligence because you’ve realised that life could be better with someone else, in particular, this boy or girl you’re about to marry.

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So as you think about that relationship, your impending nuptials and your race into this thing called life with your favourite human, I want to encourage you to apply the same thought process to everything happening on your wedding day, and everyone you’re hiring and everything you’re purchasing.

Contrary to public thought, there isn’t one way to celebrate marriage. With the current population, there are about 2 billion ways to celebrate marriage – because a marriage isn’t a traditional cloak that you wear, nor is it some kind of old-fashioned dance that we dance.

Marriage is quite seriously and simply a union.

It’s a union between two people, entered into voluntarily and for life.

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It’s two amazing and intelligent people making the decision and the commitment to share their most precious asset with the other, their time.

So when it comes to celebrating that union, anyone else’s wedding wouldn’t do. The starting time, the date or day of the week, the place or the stationery, it all just won’t do.

How the ceremony is performed and what kind of photos are taken, if any at all, it’s all a completely individual and unique experience because we’re not celebrating the idea of marriage. We’re not celebrating the traditions of weddings over the course of history.

We’re celebrating your marriage and that’s deserving of a one-in-six-billion party because you’ve got a one-in-six-billion marriage and that ceremony isn’t celebrating the dictionary definition of marriage or the church’s definition of marriage.

Your marriage ceremony is quite literally this magically awesome moment where you slip from unmarried to married, and that’s something worth celebrating because it all simply means that the best is yet to come.

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The huge central living pavilion opens up through accordion doors to the tropical garden and huge decks in which are set four other buildings, where the families and couples that are staying can have perfect privacy when they desire, and huge common areas when they would like to commune.

There are five luxury bedrooms and a separate kitchen and dining area overlooking the pools where you can watch the kids frolic in the 30cm deep reflection pool or dive deep into the 20m lap pool, both set in golden sandstone.

In the days before and after your reception have relatives or friends to stay, ride the bikes along the beach at low tide, or drive 10 minutes into town to enjoy Byron’s restaurants. With the sound of the sea from your bed and a world-class point break a minute from your room – this is the ultimate Australian beach house.

Co-ordinators love weddings at Barefoot at Broken Head because it’s all here – no need to organise a professional kitchen, bathrooms, electricity, decorations, cool room, marquees, public liability insurance, gate attendant, rubbish removal or indoor/outdoor ceremony options. All this is included in the reception fee.

Clovelly Estate

Everyone knows that a wedding should be special, but at Spicers Clovelly Estate we also believe it should be unique.

Our romantic Sunshine Coast Hinterland setting, beautiful reception venue, lush gardens, award winning catering and expert service provide the essential ingredients to make your special day perfect.

And best of all, Spicers Clovelly Estate offers exclusivity for your wedding and the opportunity to have guests stay on site in the 13 luxurious guest house suites.

Also, you might like to reserve some time for yourself at Spa Anise the day before your wedding for a relaxing massage, soothing treatment, manicure or pedicure. Or on the morning of the big day, to have one of our trained professionals create your wedding make-up.

The opportunity to share more than just the ceremony with friends and family is one of the joys of staying at Spicers Clovelly Estate.

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The Byron at Byron Resort & Spa

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Che, Head Chef and Owner, keeps it simple with produce sourced predominantly from the restaurant’s own gardens, along with the fields, paddocks, and oceans that surround Byron Bay. In the restaurant, he combines this premium produce with his creativity and experience, gained from years spent travelling and cooking around the world.

For your wedding menu, Che will invite you to the restaurant to enjoy a six-course tasting, before sitting down with you to design a menu that reflects what is fresh, local, in season and is “the food you want to eat!!”

Fig Tree offers two houses for accommodation – The Dairy and Sunrise, both on either side of the restaurant, for you, your family or friends to get ready in or retire to.

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