Welcome to the exciting, pretty and slightly daunting world of wedding planning. Today, the Brisbane City Celebrants duo are lifting the veil on some common wedding planning misconceptions. So instead of finding out things the hard way, you will now be well equipped with all the latest ‘Insider Info’ when it comes to planning your wedding.
1. You must have your signed NOIM form to your Celebrant no less than one month before the date of your marriage.
You MUST complete and sign the marriage notice form (known as the NOIM) and have this to your Celebrant (or Minister) no less than 1 calendar month before the date of your wedding. In Australia, this is a legal requirement and one of many reasons you shouldn’t leave booking your Celebrant to the last minute.
2. Invitation RSVP’s
Use your RSVP’s not only to confirm attendance, but also to gather details on dietary requirements. This will allow your venue to cater for any food allergies, vegetarians, gluten intolerances, etc.
Your guests will appreciate this thoughtful gesture so much, as will the kitchen who can ensure they are equipped to cater for any special dietary requirements.
3. You don’t need to time your walk down the aisle
Instead of practising your pace down the aisle with your bridal party and praying the flower girl and page boy walk on cue without getting distracted and drifting off in another direction while worrying about taking your first step on a set note, why not have the music work around you?
If you are using your DJ or Celebrants PA System for your ceremony music, the person in charge of the music can simply fade the music out as you both take your places.
Likewise, if you have a string quartet or live music, they are professionals at what they do and highly skilled when it comes to wrapping up the song at an appropriate point when they see you take your spots.
A much easier and stress-free way to make your grand entrance.
4. You don’t need to memorise your vows
Memorising your wedding vows is best left to Hollywood Actors! You do NOT need to memorise your vows and unless you anticipate being completely free of nerves and enjoy a great stage presence, we generally don’t recommend it.
Keep your day relaxed and stress-free by arranging for your Celebrant to have these printed and ready to pass to you during the ceremony for you to either read or repeat after being cued by the Celebrant.
The beautifully spoken vows you see on TV and on video highlight reels have usually been edited to remove the Celebrant prompting the wording that they repeat.
5. Guests don’t bring their own confetti
If you dream of walking back down the aisle together to an eruption of bubbles or a burst of rose petals, you will need to arrange these in advance and let your Celebrant know so they can cue the guests when to shower you with these.
6. The Bride’s name doesn’t automatically change to the husband’s last name when you wed
It is completely optional if you would like to take your husband or wife’s last name.
There isn’t a formal name change process as such, it’s more a case of updating your name with every business and government organisation that have you on record (e.g. banks, Drivers Licence etc), by showing your official registry issued marriage certificate as evidence of your marriage – if you wish to.
7. If you are honeymooning overseas straight after your wedding, book everything in your maiden name
As romantic as booking your entire honeymoon as the new Mr & Mrs Smith is, unfortunately, airlines simply won’t let you on the plane if the name on your plane ticket doesn’t match the name on your passport.
Given point 6 above, the process of applying for your registry-issued marriage certificate, to use as evidence of your marriage to apply for a new passport in your new last name, could potentially take 6-8 weeks or even more.
Booking everything in your maiden name will eliminate this potential concern at the airport ensuring you can jump on the plane together to enjoy your well-deserved and anticipated honeymoon.
8. Photographers & wedding vendor’s use of images
If for work, or personal reasons, you don’t want, or are not permitted, to have images from your wedding shared publicly, e.g. on social media or websites, let your photographer know before securing the booking to ensure they are fine with this, as their contract may state otherwise.
Typically within Australia, wedding photographers contracts state that they maintain the rights to your photos.
Some wedding vendors like to include in their contract that they are permitted to use your images in their advertising, and some like taking selfies with couples to post on their social media pages.
Again if you aren’t comfortable with this do let them know, it’s your special day after all and you have every right to keep it private if you prefer.
9. Who is actually shooting your wedding?
Couples are increasingly finding they’ve booked ‘Bob Smith Photography’ (Disclaimer: we’re using a fictitious business name here, with no reference to any actual Bob Smith Photographers) as they loved his portfolio, only to find out on the day, that Bob Smith himself won’t shooting their day and that one of his industry friends will be shooting on his behalf.
While it’s unlikely Bob will contract photographers who aren’t of a high standard, you have an absolute right to know who will be capturing your day, to view their portfolio and to meet them in person before the day, given that you will be spending so much time with them on the most important day of your life.
By simply asking this question, you can ensure you get the Photographer you are expecting for your day.
10. Third-Party Enforcing
There are laws which cover your rights to choose your own suppliers. In summary, third-party enforcing laws prevent a wedding venue from forcing you to only use the one stylist they promote, likewise, a Celebrant that also offers an MC service, can not force you to book both services.
In our experience it’s uncommon to experience third-party enforcing in the wedding industry, however, it’s not completely unheard of. You can seek legal advice for further clarification.
We hope you feel better equipped now when it comes to finding your very own dream team of suppliers for your special day.
Happy wedding planning!