The question has been popped, along with the champagne, as you and your fiancé ring in the magical first moments of being engaged. And while floating together in the bubble of your new secret status has been super exciting and ridiculously romantic, you’re now dying to share the news with your besties, change your Facebook status to Engaged and begin introducing your partner as ‘my fiancé.’
But who do you tell first, and how? And should you stick with tradition when it comes to these things or go your own sweet way? Relax, we’ve got you covered, with the complete modern bride’s guide on how to announce your engagement – and avoid any potentially embarrassing social media fails.
OLD SCHOOL FORMALITIES
Traditional etiquette proposed that the bride’s parents were made privy to your engagement news first, followed closely by the groom’s parents, extended family, distant relatives and finally, friends.
Every announcement was expected to be made face to face, with the exception of family members living long distances away – in which case phone calls would suffice.
Once these niceties were strictly followed, a formal announcement was put in the newspaper, typically issued by the bride’s mother.
MODERN DAY REALITIES
But it’s 2018 and we live in an increasingly online world where a lot of us are used to sharing our lives on Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram.
So what’s a bride to do?
Well, there are no rules to any of this of course, but if you want to start your dream wedding off on the right foot, and in the good books with your new in-laws, it only makes sense to tell them the exciting news personally before making it Facebook Official, for example.
Likewise, if either of you has children from previous relationships, it’s highly likely you’ll want to let them in on the news before anyone else. This gesture will ensure they still feel just as important to you and provide the space for them to be able to experience the excitement of having another person in their lives who will be loving them for the long run.
SOCIAL MEDIA ETIQUETTE FOR THE NEWLY ENGAGED
Once your best friends, family members, and kids are in on your engagement status, you will probably be busting to share the news with your wider online sphere. But before you do, keep the following newly-engaged etiquette essentials in mind.
Do: Be Courteous
Consider creating a group message to announce the news to different friendship circles before sharing that bangin’ ring selfie – especially if you just know there’s at least one special person who could be offended by finding out in this way. Your safest option is to deliver personal messages to a few of your closest friends before posting about it publicly to keep everyone’s feelings intact.
Do: Be Gracious
Focus on the heart of your news — you’re making a forever promise to your soul mate, best friend and partner in crime. Yes, your ring is ah-mazing, but so is that fiancé who snatched you up, so make it about your love, and how grateful you are to have found each other.
Don’t: Over Share
Your friends and family are over the moon for you and your beau, and your first Facebook announcement pic got likes in the triple digits. But to avoid having other people rolling their eyes at your over-excited posting frenzy, try to keep things sweet and simple. If you just can’t help yourself, try limiting engagement posts to once per week, this will ensure that each upload holds its charm and exclusivity.
And, Yes: Indulge In A Ring Selfie – Or Fifty!
But not until you’ve booked in for a luxury manicure to ensure your digits are looking their absolute best – with the perfect shade of polish chosen to show off that rock.
Once ready, find the perfect setting, the most flattering lighting, and get snapping. And whilst filling up your phone memory with wedding prettiness is completely fine in our books; try not to go uploading every single pic you take. What did we say about over sharing again? 😉
Prefer to watch the reactions of your loved ones in real life, measured in open arms and squeals of joy rather than likes and comments? Keep the suspense and thrill alive, with these unique announcement ideas which celebrate your engagement offline. So old school!
FIANCÈS & FEASTS
If you consider yourself to be a bit of a MasterChef in the kitchen, why not invite your friends over for a classy dinner party? Breaking the news during a toast while grazing on homemade tapas is a super stylish, and effortlessly cool way to make the big reveal.
Is baking your jam? Then get creative and whip up some homemade fortune cookies. Slide a little ‘We’re getting engaged!’ note into each and surprise the pants off of everyone. The hard part will be waiting until dessert to let your guests in on your new relationship status!
All a bit too much? Just want to get everyone you love together and let the cat out of the bag ASAP? Why not organise an impromptu catch up at your favourite bar or a Sunday BBQ down by the beach?
And if you’re looking to announce things in total Bridechilla style, check out these cute, fun but no-nonsense ideas to help get the wedding show on the road…
If you’re all about efficiency, sending an email announcement, address collection card, or moving straight onto a save the date if you’re lucky enough to already have your date set and venue booked, is a personal, yet practical way to get the word out to your nearest and dearest – and is a great option if you have friends or relatives who either live overseas or require plenty of notice about the big event.
Incorporating one of the following photo ideas is a great way to personalise your email announcement. Check out websites like Paperless Post, Pingg or Evite where you can upload your images to turn into stylish and professional digital announcements, allowing you to create something truly reflective of you as a couple. Here’s a few of our personal faves to inspire your creativity:
So enjoy yourself, celebrate big and relish in feeling all loved up! This is a time in your life that you’ll never want to forget. Now… did someone say champagne?
Feature Image: Rabbit & The Bear