7 Ways To Create A Wedding Ceremony That Truly Reflects YouSep 18

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When it comes to creating your ceremony, the choices are yours. So, the most important thing you need to do is to choose someone who ‘gets’ you as a couple. It is so important to choose a celebrant you feel a true connection with and someone who is genuinely interested in discovering who you both are. That way, you’ll be safe in the knowledge that your celebrant is all about working WITH you.

Every couple is different and has different ideas, so anything goes! Your celebrant should give you ideas and options to craft a unique ceremony that is uniquely you and no-one else. When creating your ceremony, you can build in traditional elements or non-traditional elements, or something entirely new.

Read on for 7 easy ways to ensure your wedding ceremony truly reflects you and your partner’s unique love story.

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1. It doesn’t have to be your dad that walks you down the aisle, it can be anyone or more than one person – you might have someone walk you part of the way and another for the last few steps. You don’t even have to be walked down the aisle, you can walk by yourself, meet each other half way (just like in life) or walk in together and surprise your guests. For a really relaxed vibe, you might choose to mingle with guests before the ceremony, enjoy a drink and then get started.

Wonderlove - Byron Bay Wedding Celebrant - Honeywed2. You don’t have to have a bridal party but if you do, it definitely does not have to be even numbers on both sides. You can have girls, boys, whoever! Recently one of my brides had a bridesman, who walked down the aisle carrying a bottle of premium scotch whiskey (the bouquet idea really didn’t do it for him) He poured the scotch into a glass with ice for the waiting groom, who was relieved to have something to take the edge off.

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3. Your celebrant does not have to stand with you during the entire ceremony. I prefer to stand off to one side for most of the ceremony, creating a special space that is held by the couple, joining them for a few key moments.

Wonderlove - Byron Bay Wedding Celebrant - Honeywed4. Yes, you can include a loved one by asking them to do a reading but there are so many other ways to connect with, and include your guests. They can sign the official documents, be acknowledged and presented with a gift, or if a loved one has passed, you might like to light a candle or include a picture in your bouquet or a locket. Other ideas include having a modern twist of the ‘giving away’ by inviting all of your guests collectively give you to each other or you can even have them all make a collective vow or promise after you have exchanged marriage vows.

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5. Speaking of vows, you don’t need to repeat line by line after your celebrant. You can use specially prepared vow cards (I provide these to all of my couples). And when it comes to writing your vows, your celebrant should provide you with examples as well as ideas and guidance so that, if you decide to, you can write your own.

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6. A good celebrant will discuss your ideas around Marriage Equality and ways that your beliefs can be recognized during the ceremony.

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7. Lastly, remember the day is yours and yours only, and you are only limited by the scope of your imagination. A good celebrant ensures that your ceremony is so far from rigid, boring or outdated. They will get to know you, and craft a ceremony and that is all about YOUR love, YOUR life and YOUR ideas about marriage, ultimately delivering YOUR STORY in a way that is warm, authentic and engaging.


Words by Katrina Holt, from Wonderlove Ceremonies

Photo Credits (in order of appearance): Carly Tia, The Rare Negatives, Kate Holmes, Milenko Weddings, Shane ShepherdCarly Tia, Lean Timms, The White Tree.


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